Often the thing we’re most afraid of and that keeps us firmly in our comfort zone is the unknown. Once we know what we’re dealing with it’s a lot less scary and easier to make a plan and take action. Make this work to your advantage by asking yourself “what’s the worst that could happen”.
This simple mental exercise is often all it takes to get us to start taking action. Imagine the worst possible outcome and then figure out how you would deal with it if it came to that. Suddenly things don’t seem so scary anymore do they?
For example, when you see the cute girl in the coffee shop and you’re debating whether or not to go talk to her. You’re a little intimated and shy about it. Ask yourself what’s the worst possible outcome. It’s simply that she isn’t interested. You’ll be no worse off by asking her out and getting rejected than by not talking to her at all. At the very least, you won’t be wondering about what may have happened if you go talk to her. It’s the same thing with any thing you have been thinking about trying.
Perhaps you would like to go back to school, but you keep thinking that maybe you are too old. The thing is, you get a day older every day whether you start now or not. I started my university when I was 38 and finished when I was 51. Was I scared to start? Yes indeed, but I took the first step and enrolled. You may wonder what took me so long to complete my degree. I was working full-time and raising 4 children on my own as a single mom after my ex left.
Do you want to try a new sport? Go ahead and give it a whirl. Don’t let fear of the unknown hold you back. If you don’t like it, at least you know, but if you love it, then that’s even better.
In other words, you really have nothing to lose and everything to gain. That’s how this particular tip works.
To asking questions that move you forward…
P.S. What is one thing that is holding you back from moving forward?