What Is Your Message?

Define the Message You’ll Share

Daphne loved the idea of speaking. She wanted to grow her makeup and beauty business but she wasn’t sure how to get started with speaking. Her mentor told her to focus on first defining her message.

Every speaker needs a keystone message. But building this message can be tricky. Where do you start? What do you say? How much should you talk about yourself? These are important questions and here are a few answers for you.

Determine Your Audience

Before you can begin crafting a message that connects with your listeners, you need to get clear on who you serve. Who is it that you’re passionate about reaching? Who is your product or service for?

For Daphne, she knew her audience would mainly be women in their twenties to fifties. But she narrowed it down even more by choosing to focus on mothers. That means when Daphne started looking for events where she could speak, she focused on ones that catered to her community (busy moms).

Focus on the Problems

The next step in defining your message is focusing on the problems your audience faces. Try to make a list of the top 10-20 problems that your community regularly brings up to you. This may be a mix of big and small issues.

Daphne’s list included issues her audience complained about like: dark circles under their eyes, lipstick that didn’t stay all day, and foundation that appeared cakey or cracked.

Offer the Solutions

Now that you’ve had a chance to consider what problems plague your community, think about how you can offer them the solution. Chances are, you’re already offering the solution even if you don’t realize it.

Maybe your audience complains about the lack of information about writing copy for Facebook ads. But you have a free opt-in report on this topic. You can mention this solution in your presentation.

Show Off Your Results

As you offer solutions, be sure to share proof that what you’re teaching really works. Using the above example, you’d want to share the story of a woman who earned an extra $10K thanks to following your copywriting tips.

But keep in mind that results don’t have to be monetary. Daphne shared a message from a client who found she was more confident and felt more in charge of her life now that she knew her makeup looked great.

Share What Makes You Different

At this point, you’ve got the audience excited. They know there’s a solution out there for the problem they have. But how you handle this next part of the process is important. You want to make sure your listeners see that you’re the solution to their problems. If not, they may go and do business with one of your competitors.

Daphne pointed out her makeup brand was different because it wasn’t tested on animals and was entirely vegan, containing no animal byproducts. This made her stand out in the audience’s mind and gave them an extra reason to try her business over someone else’s.

As you work through the steps above, you’ll get many ideas about what you can speak on. Be sure to keep a notebook handy so you can write down your thoughts and use them as you craft your speech.

Fran Watson

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Grow Your Business By Speaking

How Speaking Can Grow Your Business

Tammy was a copywriting coach who was looking to grow her business. A friend suggested she give public speaking a try and encouraged her to experiment with the idea. Tammy was intrigued but she wanted to know more about speaking and how it could grow her business. Here are four key benefits of speaking that Tammy’s friend shared…

Speaking = Respect

The wonderful thing about speaking to a group is that you have the opportunity to meet your audience in person. Meeting people in person has greater impact than meeting them online.

Even better, the impact of a first meeting is multiplied when people meet you as a speaker at an event they are attending. That’s because most people have a natural respect for speakers. It’s powerful social proof that you’re smart and have value to share.

Speaking = Authority

When you’re speaking at an event, it gives you instant authority. People are more likely to trust you and take action when you make a suggestion. That’s because they believe you’re a credible source since you’re a speaker.

Speaking = Boosted Visibility

One of the best benefits from speaking is the boosted visibility. Not only will the people attending the conference or event have a chance to see you, so will others even if they never attend. That’s because the event organizer will have handouts, flyers, and other promotional material that they share online and offline. So even if someone doesn’t show up, they may still hear your name and remember you as the expert from that conference.

Another reason that speaking boosts your visibility is because you have the audience’s undivided attention for a few minutes. When people watch your videos online or join into your live stream, they’re usually multi-tasking at the same time. That means you’re not getting their full attention and they’re less likely to act on your advice. But when you speak, you have the full attention of the room.

Speaking = Industry Contacts

The more you speak, the more you’ll get a chance to meet other speakers and event coordinators. As you begin to make friends, your own circle of influence and impact will grow.

Some business owners have made life-changing contacts by simply getting to know other event leaders, topic experts, and speakers. If you see someone you might enjoy connecting with, don’t be afraid to go up and say, “Hello!” You never know where the encounter may lead!

If you’re looking to sell products or be hired, making connections through speaking opportunities can’t be beat. It’s the best way to position yourself as an expert and get your business out there.

Fran Watson

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Communication Is Today’s Most Important Life Skill

Why Communication Is Today’s Most Important Life Skill

Communication skills have always been and will continue to be the most important life skill. Possessing excellent communication skills can help take you far in both your career and your personal life. Many make the fatal mistake of thinking this skill is not important due to the advancement of technology, however, it’s even more important as we also need these skills to communicate electronically and learn.

Being able to speak clearly in a way that you are understood and listened to is an important skill to hone and possess. You can work at and perfect it, just like any other skill, but you have to put the work in. In this article, we’re going to explain just why we think communication is the most important life skill to possess today.

Good Communication Skills Can Improve Your Social Life
It should be obvious that being a good communicator will help to improve your social life. It can help you with loved ones, from friends to significant others to family members. When you possess good communication skills, you also tend to possess good listening skills, as the two go hand and hand.

If you have excellent communication skills, you will probably have fewer disagreements, drama, and fights. With excellent communication skills, you’re better prepared to communicate your feelings in a clear and concise way without hurting the other person’s feelings. You’ll be more able to get to the source of your problems instead of letting them linger or spiral out of control.

Communication Skills Build Business

Good Communication Skills Improve Your Professional Life
Possessing excellent communication skills is a key trait of successful people. Those who possess the skills and qualities of leadership also possess good communication skills. Leaders have to be able to communicate clearly what it is they need done and how they need it to be done. I have a friend who says that his business improved greatly once he learned good communication skills at Toastmasters.

Those in a leadership position at work are responsible for guiding, informing, and managing their staff. They have to be able to communicate correctly and kindly what they need to do, how they need things done and make corrections when necessary. It takes excellent communication skills to get the job done right.

Good Communication Skills Make You a Better Person
Excellent communication skills help you to be a better listener and therefore have fewer fights because you’re better prepared to easily resolve the issues. This does not mean that you don’t have disagreements. What it means is that you learn ways to discuss difficult things in a calm and effective manner. You learn to listen to what the other person has to say without interrupting in order to understand their point of view. This improves your friendships and relationships, making them stronger and longer-lasting. Being able to sort through your problems, feelings, and disagreements can help you to develop stronger, more durable relationships

Communication skills have always been important as it is how we work through problems, discuss issues, and get things done. With the increase of electronic communication, people tend to disregard and neglect their communication skills, but the truth is that you need those same skills to succeed in electronic communication as you do in-person communication. Sometimes even more since the person on the other end can not see your body language – whether or not you are smiling, joking, or very serious and they will interpret your message based on their feelings at the time they read it.

Communication takes skill

While it can be difficult to practice your communication, in an effort to improve those skills, the work is well worth it. You will find that good communication skills will improve your relationships, your career, and your life. Honing your communication skills can do a lot to improve your life and make you a better person.

Remember the better you are at communicating, the better a person you become. You listen more and you don’t hold on to bad feelings, you communicate them and do it well. Good communication skills are essential to being a good friend, employee, leader, and a better person all around.

#publicspeaking
Fran Watson

To developing your communication skills and your life.

Fran Watson

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The Power of Words

Spoken Words Have More Power Than You Realize

Jasmine often called herself unattractive names. Sometimes, she did it when she was with friends and making self-deprecating jokes. But other times, she did it when she was angry and wanted to express her disappointment in herself or her behavior.

Tracy, a good friend, finally called Jasmine out on this habit. She said, “I don’t know if you’re aware of the way you speak about yourself but spoken words have more power than you realize. What you speak, you live out.”

Like Jasmine, you may not realize it, but your words do affect every area of your life and they can impact you for years to come.

Your Words Affect Your Confidence

When she was feeling good about herself, Jasmine used encouraging words to describe herself. She focused on self-care and body love when she had a victory moment like mastering a complex line of code for her website or getting a big project done on time.

But those moments were rare. Most of the time, Jasmine nit-picked what she did and constantly looked for flaws in herself and in her work. As a result, these negative words affected her confidence and she often found herself feeling ashamed and wanting to hide.

Your Words Impact Your Attitude

How you approach a big project or tackle a difficult conversation can be impacted by the words you use beforehand. For example, if you say that you’re headed back to the salt mines before you go to work on your novel, you’re going to associate the task with boredom and drudgery.

But if you say that you’re off to work on the exciting adventure that is your novel, you’re more likely to approach your writing session with energy and enthusiasm. This doesn’t mean that everything you create during that session will be gold. However, you’re more likely to be happy with your work and enjoy the process if you approach it with the right attitude.

Your Words Create Your Level of Success

Michelle was going back to school to become a nurse. She wanted to earn high marks in all her classes. But she often found herself saying things like, “I’m not smart enough to handle the workload” or “I don’t have the brains in the family”.

Fortunately, one of Michelle’s college professors recognized her self-defeating talk and brought her attention to it. She explained, “Your words create your level of success in your life. If you speak as though you’re not going to finish your degree, you will believe that truth and live it out. Even if you don’t want to.”

The words you speak dictate your level of success—whether in your work, your relationships, or your hobbies. You can only go as far as you believe is possible in life and in business.

Your Words Can Heal Your Self-Image

Patricia grew up with parents who were in and out of prison. She was frequently placed in foster homes where she was abused, starved, and unloved. When Patricia got older, she viewed herself as broken and worthless.

But a wise mentor encouraged her to look at herself differently. He said, “The beautiful thing about a mosaic is that what’s broken can be made whole with some creativity and imagination.”  The Japanese art of kintsugi teaches that broken objects are not something to hide.  Kintsugi (“golden joinery”), is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery by mending the areas of breakage with lacquer dusted or mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum to make them more beautiful.

As Patricia slowly began to change the way she spoke about herself, she no longer used the word broken, choosing instead to say that she was a work in progress, a masterpiece not yet complete. The more she began to speak these words, the more she found healing and wholeness.

Your Words Create Habits

As Michelle, the aspiring nurse, learned more about how her words affected her, she started paying attention to the ones she had around her habits. For example, she tended to say things that include:

  • I always overeat.
  • I can’t be on time to save my life.
  • I never make it to the gym.

Since she was challenging herself to create new habits, she decided to play with the words she used.

When she found herself saying one of the three sentences above, she replaced it with a different one like…

  • I’m learning self-control when it comes to portions.
  • I’m working to leave the house 10 minutes early.
  • I make the gym a priority.

The more she focused on changing her words, the more they came to life. Pretty soon, Michelle had a host of new, healthy habits that were fueling her body so she could reach her goal of becoming a nurse.

Your Words Produce Peace & Calm

Your words have a profound effect on your emotional state, too. Using certain words can alter your perception of events. For example, you could say, “I’m furious that my food is cold.”

With this statement, you’re focusing on a strong emotion (fury) over a minor problem that doesn’t fully deserve this reaction. But what would happen if you changed your words? You could say, “I’m annoyed that my food is cold.”

The verbs you choose determine your emotions. If you choose mild words, you’re less likely to blow up over something seemingly small (like cold food).

Your Words Give You Space to Grow

It’s way too easy to talk about yourself in absolutes that don’t leave you open to new possibilities. For example, when Angel was struggling to grow her business, she often said, “I’ll never hit six-figures and be successful like my friends.”  Have you ever used the words “never” or “always” when talking about your life? 

The business coach she hired challenged Angel on her use of the word never. “Never is a long time. Are you sure you want to apply that word to your situation?”

Negative absolutes (like never and always) can leave you feeling trapped and defeated when you use them. If you find yourself saying them a lot, pause and ask yourself. “Is this a statement that I want to be true about my life or business?”

If you truly want to grow into your best self, you must be willing to give up the mindsets that hold you back. That means making friends with your inner trickster (also known as ego). Thank her for her input then suggest that she sit down quietly because you have work to do. After changing her mindset and the way she talked to herself, Angel achieved her six-figure goal.

Your Words Determine the Results You Get

Your words create your reality. They also determine the results you get. If you go to take a test in one of your college courses and you say you’ll fail, chances are high that you will. It doesn’t matter that you spent all night studying or that you know the material backwards and forwards.

Your mind is incredibly powerful. It manifests what you say, regardless of whether what you said was positive or negative. This means you will always experience the outcomes you predict, even when they’re painful.

However, there is some good news. You can change the results you get and the experiences you have by changing your words. If you approach the next test with confidence and the same dedication, you’re likely to ace it. Why? Because you believed it was possible, so your mind went to work manifesting it.

Your words are your most powerful resource. They can be a weapon you use to hurt yourself and cut down your potential. Or they can be an amazing tool you can use to harness to create more of what you want in your life and business.

How will you use your words? Dropping negative self-talk can change your life.

Fran

Use positive self-talk

P.S. What if you discovered that you could change your life by simply changing your words? What if you became ruthless about removing words from your speech that were holding you back from accomplishing your deepest dreams? What if you stepped into your destiny by choosing to embrace words with positive energy?

With the 7 Words to Ban for a Better Mindset workbook, you’ll discover the words that are keeping you from success, what to do about them, and how to harness positive energy to create your best life. Here’s a peek at what you’ll see in your workbook…

  • Erase Can’t from Your Vocabulary
  • Why Busy Is a Dangerous Word
  • Stop Looking for Life to Be Hard
  • Get Off Your But & Change Your Life
  • No More Shoulds!
  • Abandon the Crutch of Always
  • Believe in the Possible
  • Create a Life You Love

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Take Action on your Dreams

Let us then, be up and doing

With a heart for any fate;

Still achieving, still pursuing,

Learn to labor and to wait.

– Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

action
Make your life what you want it to be

Dreams are not enough.  Dreaming will not get us anywhere if we don’t take action on our dreams.  Each and every day we need to do at least one thing that will move us forward.

I hear you saying, but “I don’t have the time to do anything” or “I’m so busy there aren’t enough hours in the day to do what I need to do.”  But there are some things that take only a few minutes that can help move you forward.

Did you know that wasting 15 minutes a day works out to 91 hours per year?  What could you do with those 91 hours?

          If we read an average of 12 pages a day (about 15 minutes) we could read 17-18 books per year.

          We can learn a new task, become an expert in our field of study, or upgrade our education.

          We could exercise and stay in shape while tuning up our heart.  15 minutes 3 times a week will maintain a healthy body.

          We could spend the time in personal meditation or spiritual contemplation to bring balance to our lives.

          We could devote 15 minutes of quality time to someone we care about.  We could choose a different person each day.  We could write a letter, send a card, make a phone call or a personal visit.  We could sit down with someone and ask them a question and really listen to their answer.

Your time should always be spent doing things that help you achieve your goals and bring fulfillment to your life. Plan your days and determine how you will use your time most productively to accomplish your goals.

The next time you have 10 to 15 minutes, is there a phone call you can make or a letter you can send?  Can you write one page of your novel or your blog?  Is there a mailing list you can sign up for that will provide you with information you need? Time to read five pages of a book on your subject matter? Can you sign up to volunteer for an organization in your dream field?  You will be amazed at what you can accomplish in 15 minutes.

Practice Makes Perfect
Manage your time to reach your goals.

Time is a unique resource.  Day to day, everyone has the same amount.  It cannot be accumulated.  You can’t turn it on or off.  It can’t be replaced.  It has to be spent at the rate of sixty seconds every minute, sixty minutes every hour.

Time management, like the management of other resources, benefits from analysis and planning.  It is a personal process and must fit your style and circumstances. 

It takes a strong commitment to change old habits; however you do have a choice.  You can learn how to better use your time to accomplish the things you want to do.

Drop me a line with your email address and I will send you some more Time Management Tips to help you reach your goals sooner.

To spending your time wisely

#publicspeaking
Fran Watson

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Seek First To Understand

For years one of my fellow Toastmasters, by the name of Fred Schuck has been insistent that we need to “seek first to understand” the people we meet and interact with. On September 11th, yesterday, my daily reading included this from Stephen R. Covey’s “Daily Reflections For Highly Effective People”.

“Seek first to understand involves a very deep shift in paradigm.  We typically seek first to be understood. Most people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply.” 

How many times do we run into trouble with others because we view them from our experiences, our understanding, instead of taking the time to know them and their views better.  Have you ever walked away from an argument or discussion saying, “That person just doesn’t understand”?  When you think back on that moment now, did you really take the time to listen to that person to find out more about them so that you could understand where they are coming from.  I know that I have been guilty of this.

Yesterday many of us reflected on events that happened 18 years ago which changed the world as we know it.  We asked questions that we could not answer.  We sought answers to things we did not understand.  At that time, and since then, we accused innocent people of things they didn’t do because they belonged to a particular race of people. 

It is time to stop.  It is time to seek to understand, to learn, to grow, to become more. It doesn’t mean that we will agree.  It doesn’t even mean that things will immediately change when we do this.  But it’s a start.  And it begins with you…and me.  In a song I heard recently the words go something like this –“if not us then who, if not me and you.  If not now, then when will it ever end”

Seek to understand others

To better understanding of those we live with and work with and meet today.

Fran Watson

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Know Your Audience

Have you been told this before? What does it mean? How are you supposed to get to know your audience when you are speaking at a new venue? An article in The American Society of Engineers says the following:

“To connect with your audience, you need to understand why your topic is important to them. What do they expect to learn from the presentation? Don’t assume the audience is like you. They may have cultural or geographic biases and the more you understand them, the better you can express yourself to them and avoid speaking gaffes. It is also important to know the level of knowledge they have about your topic, so you can present the information with the correct tone to keep people interested and engaged.

Whether you are presenting to a small group of 20 or a large group of 200, there are many things you can to do in advance to ensure that your presentation achieves the desired response. The most important is to know and understand your audience as well as the venue logistics.”

Challenge Your Limits

There are several things you can do to prepare and research your audience before and at the beginning of the talk that will help you adjust your speech to better engage the audience. The first thing is to Research. Call the person who booked you and ask questions about the audience. What do they hope to gain, who are some of the main people you should get to know.

Then Greet them at the door – get there early and say hello to everyone who walks through the door. If you have a little bit of time, ask them some questions about why they came, what they hope to learn.

Read more here: https://www.asme.org/topics-resources/content/public-speaking-know-your-audience

You can also check out Toastmasters (as recommended in the article) by going to www.toastmasters.org and clicking on “find a club” to find a club near you. You can also find many good articles on public speaking at that link.

The more you know about your audience, the better you can tailor your speech to their wants and needs.

To your speaking success

Fran Watson

www.franwatson.ca
Know Your Audience

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Sandwich Month

I was reading a blog this morning this morning and found out that August is sandwich month. The first thought that came to mind was a toasted tomato sandwich with a tomato fresh from my garden (although I am still waiting for them to ripen).

What is your favourite “go to” sandwich that you order when you are out or that you make at home?

Favourite Sandwich?
Favourite Sandwich?

I am currently working on a Speaking Topics Planner/Journal that will come with a list of over 800 speech topics. Sandwiches would make a great topic. There are so many ways to spin this. You could talk about comfort foods, the most popular sandwiches, where the sandwich came from, exotic sandwiches and more.

If you are a marketer, you could spin this into a marketing segment by offering recipe books with sandwiches and other food items. (Excuse me for a moment while I go and check if I have such a thing to share with you.) Yes, I found a link for a health Mega Pack

There are a lot of choices at that site – so many health and food topics – great information for anyone who is a speaker or a marketer, or both. And it is PLR information, so that means you get to use it, tweak it and make it your own and keep all the profits. You would be selling your own product, not someone else’s product.

There are some other wonderful days in August that I may write about as well. Some I missed, but I may find something to share about them – Girlfriends Day, Watermelon Day, Friendship Day, Chocolate Chip Day, Work Like A Dog Day, Wiggle Your Toes Day and today (August 9th) is BOOK LOVERS DAY. Oh my goodness this day was made for me.

If I took pictures of my house, you would see books in EVERY room, including the bathroom! I have over 8 book cases full of books and 4 of those are in my living room. Plus the tops of two of those bookcases and a small table are piled with books.

Book Lovers Day
#1 Best Seller 2018 Read My Chapter

How about you? Are you a book lover? What are your favourite books?

Fran

P.S. My friend Connie Ragen Green is an amazing author and many of her books are available on Amazon for a very good deal. I have downloaded many of her Kindle books.

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Measuring Your Comfort Zone

Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone

Peter Drucker famously said “What gets measured, gets managed”. What if you could measure your comfort zone? Would this encourage more people to face their challenges and live more exciting lives?

“You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone; change begins at the end of your comfort zone.”
― Roy T. Bennett

Marcus Taylor wrote:  “In 2012, after a conversation about comfort zones with Derek Sivers, I decided to build this tool as an experiment to see whether measuring comfort zones was possible, and whether it would be useful to people.”

“Real change is difficult at the beginning, but gorgeous at the end. Change begins the moment you get the courage and step outside your comfort zone; change begins at the end of your comfort zone.”
― Roy T. Bennett

“Since then, over 24,000 people have measured their comfort zone.The algorithm has also been approved as scientifically valid by registered psychologists at Deakin University.

This tool remains free for everyone. My only request is that you take action and do something outside of your comfort zone.”  – Marcus Taylor”

Measuring Comfort Zones

“We are so accustomed to the comforts of “I cannot”, “I do not want to” and “it is too difficult” that we forget to realize when we stop doing things for ourselves and expect others to dance around us, we are not achieving greatness. We have made ourselves weak.” 
― Pandora Poikilos, Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out

Dale Carnegie – a well-known speaker said:  “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie
And Brian Tracy, another well known speaker comments:  “Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.”– Brian Tracy

Connecting with Your Audience

The most important tool a public speaker can acquire is to learn how to make a connection with their audience. Once you can do this successfully people are going to enjoy your speeches and return for more.

One of the best ways to create a connection with your audience is to speak from your heart. Don’t just try to memorize your speech, talk with feelings and allow your emotions to rise to the surface. When people see you are passionate or upset by something they almost always immediately connect with you. They have probably experienced something similar that brings their own feelings to the surface.

Another way to set the tone of your speech is to pay attention to your opening. Very often you can capture your audience’s attention by giving them a startling fact or announcement.

Using stories is another compelling way to interact with your audience. If you use this angle you want to use a story that is true to you, and one that identifies with the topic you are talking about. If you are talking about your own journey on how you got to where you are today, you will have lots of stories to share.

One other great tactic is actually making use of a tool and that is by using images or graphics. This could be in the form of a slide show, drawings on a white board or having a pin board full of photographs. This works really well if you allow your audience to come up on stage and view them before your speech. Plus it allows you to mingle and to introduce yourself at the same time.

Take all the above items into consideration and see if you can use one or more of them in your next speech. Whatever you do stay true to yourself, don’t make up stories. If you don’t have one to share, you could always use snippets from a friend’s story.

The most powerful tool you have to connect with your audience is simply to use your voice and your body language. When you speak, speak with authority and confidence. Walk the stage and make eye contact with your audience and don’t forget the power of visual aids.

Remember that once you have learned the skill of connecting with your audience, you engagements will likely increase. You will become a more requested speaker than you thought possible.

To your success in stretching beyond your comfort zone.
Fran Watson
www.franwatson.ca
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Self Care

Today I found an amazing site with all kinds of tips on self-care.

Develop good self-care habits
Develop Self-Care Habits

If you are like me, you often put others ahead of yourself and then wonder why you are so exhausted. It’s important to take time out to refresh and recover. This may mean just pouring yourself a cup of tea or coffee and sitting outside for half an hour, or maybe taking half an hour to read a book or some uplifting quotes.

It may mean talking to a good friend about what is going on in your lives over a glass of wine or a coffee or some lemonade. The drink part really doesn’t matter, it’s the conversation that makes the difference. Self-care is about giving ourselves relief when we feel overwhelmed.

It is important to recognize your stress indicators, such as mood swings, shortening temper, or feeling drained, overwhelmed, or angry. Use these “warning signs” to let you know you need “me time” and some self-care. If you’re feeling overwhelmed with too much social interaction, go home. Don’t be afraid to cancel plans or say “no.”

Giving your emotions free reign—or at least acknowledging your emotional state and moving on—is an important part of self-care. Before you can get better, you must acknowledge what is and was, and make those changes

It may be helpful to have a journal in which you can remind yourself of the good stuff in life by writing a list of things you’re grateful to have. Then post it somewhere you can see it often to help refocus your emotions when you feel down.

Emotional Self-Care Ideas
Self Care Ideas

These tips are just a starting point. You can find many more here. I encourage you to check this site out and find some tips that you can put to use.

To improving your personal self-care.

Fran Watson

P.S. Try some adult coloring as a form of anxiety and/or stress release. This can also serve to help you focus, be more mindful and perhaps spark some creativity.

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